219: Why You Pull Back Right Before You Get What You Want
You've been here before. Everything is ready. The offer is built. The message is written. Maybe you've even practiced what you're going to say. And then — something happens. You don't send it. You don't make the call. You lower the price before anyone even pushes back. You find the reasons it won't work, and you pull back.
This is the episode that names what's actually happening in that moment.
In this deeply personal solo episode, Danie breaks down why pulling back right before the breakthrough isn't a discipline problem, a strategy problem, or a sign you don't want it badly enough. It's a belief problem. A very old one. And it's been running the show from a place most strategy can never reach.
The terror barrier Danie opens with Bob Proctor's concept of the terror barrier — the invisible wall that appears right when you're about to break through to something new. It doesn't show up as fear exactly. It shows up as logic. As seventeen perfectly reasonable reasons why now isn't the right time.
The core belief The belief underneath the pattern? I am not allowed to have what I want. You're probably not saying those words to yourself — but you're living them. In the invoice you hesitate to send. In the yes you talk yourself out of. In the relationship you find reasons to leave right when it starts to feel real.
The three levels of inner authority This is why strategy alone never fixes it. The block isn't on the surface. It lives in your inner authority — across three levels:
- The mental body — what your conscious and subconscious mind actually believes about what you're allowed to have
- The physical body — where the belief is stored in your nervous system and tissues, beyond what any mindset work alone can reach
- The spiritual body — your energy, your auric field, your inner child, your ego, all the aspects of you that are either moving you forward or pulling you back
All three have to be part of the work. Otherwise you're only doing half the job.
The personal story Danie shares one of her most vulnerable stories — leaving a nearly decade-long abusive relationship two weeks before the wedding, finding herself alone for the first time at 31, and then meeting her partner of 13 years. And discovering, in the safety of that relationship, a pattern she had never been able to see before.
At nine years old, she made a decision: in order to receive love, she had to be perfect. And a perfect person doesn't have needs. That decision drove her behavior for decades — to the edge of everything she wanted, and then pulled her back. Every time.
Where to begin Danie walks through the first practical entry points: journaling, meditation, intentional walking — and why all three are simply tools for the same thing: getting honest about what decision you made, when you made it, and what it's been costing you since.
The episode closes with a reflection prompt that will tell you everything you need to know about where your work begins.
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💬 Reflection Prompt: Say to yourself - I am allowed to have what I want. Notice what comes up.
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Danie C. Muniz is the Founder of Sacred CEO, Teacher of Conscious Leadership and Guide for Self-Led Women. Welcome home.💫
